I see so many posts online about dating. Every day, on every social media network, tons of them. Dos and don’ts and this and that and the other thing.
What I see a lot of is things like “if so and so does this or that KEEP THEM FOREVER BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE WILL” and oh my gosh it gets on my nerves. Girls, just because a guy pauses his video games for you doesn’t mean he’s the most perfect guy in the world. And guys, just because she plays video games with you doesn’t make her a perfect glowing angel worth your everything.
Those are just examples, but you get what I mean. Replace video games with whatever “quirky” or “different” thing and it means the same thing. Stop settling for someone just because they tolerate you and your habits!
I’m not dating my boyfriend of almost 4 years just because we like the same music or just because he understands and knows what to do when I get moody. I’m dating him because of those things BUT MOSTLY because he treats me like an equal and respects me! We do not like 100% of the same things, but we don’t harp on each other for our differences, we embrace them. I will watch sports with him and he will watch Harry Potter movies with me and no one holds it over the other person.
I was a mess when we started dating. I didn’t hold on to my boyfriend because he knew that and accepted me anyways. I held on to him because he’s sweet and kind and understanding and my best friend and I know I can count on him no matter what. Relationships are deep and complex and we are together for many deep and complex reasons, along with some typical and silly ones. Like how when I look at him I am overwhelmed with happiness and love and the desire to hug and kiss and cuddle forever.
My boyfriend makes me more comfortable being me. We’ve been through life’s ups and downs together and I wouldn’t want anyone else by side for them.
Stop settling for stupid compromises on who you want, and go find your soulmate! Because I gotta tell ya, it is out of this world amazing when you find them.